Children will know when they’re hungry and when they’re not hungry. We don’t want to choose their foods. We have food prepared and enough portions for all the children at the table. But children get to decide whether they’re planning to put a scoop or two scoops on their plate. – Early Childhood Educator
It is hard to let children select their own portions because they either serve too much or too little food. Or, they will only choose their favorite food.

To guide children to take appropriate portion sizes, use measuring cups which correspond to the recommended portion size for their age. For example, if the meal pattern recommends 1/4 cup of fruit, have children use 1/4 measuring cup to scoop. Using spoons which are too big may prompt children to serve themselves more than what is necessary. Alternatively, if the serving spoons are too small, they may not serve themselves enough food. Remember that the tools are only to guide serving sizes. However, children will select “how much,” or the portion size, they want to take.
| Dishware: | Why they are important: |
|---|---|
| Child-sized plates, bowls and cups | Allow children to serve appropriate serving sizes |
| Plates with rims | Make food portions look larger |
| Clear, see-through dishware | Provide visual cues as children serve |
| Different color serving spoons and eating spoons | Help children differentiate between serving spoons and eating spoons |
| Unbreakable materials | Ensure child safety |
The size of the plate can lead to a child serving too much food. Children tend to serve appropriate portions when they use small plates.
Here are some suggestions to guide children while they are selecting their portion size:
1. If the child is over-serving, you can provide verbal guidance while cueing children to their internal signals of hunger. It is important for caregivers to provide verbal guidance when children are serving themselves.
For example:
Research shows that self-serving without verbal cues from caregivers can lead to children overeating.
'Less is more' is my motto and they can always have seconds if they are still hungry. I always tell my kiddos to take one or two scoops to start out with. – Early Childhood Educator

2. If the child is not taking enough food, provide verbal guidance while cueing the child to their internal signals of hunger. For example, “Are you hungry?”
Remember that children will know when they are hungry or not, and they will eat if they are hungry. It is good to encourage, but not to force, foods to children especially because there are many factors that can contribute to children not eating.
For example,
Below are some suggestions to encourage children to try new foods: