During Meals
Teach children to serve themselves by providing them physical and verbal assistance.
Physical Assists
Watch the following video to learn about using physical assists to help children learn to serve themselves.
Use hand-over-hand physical prompts to physically support children as they serve themselves
- Ask the child if you can help them scoop or pour food, so that the child is prepared.
- Place your hand on top of the child’s hand.
- Gently guide the child’s hand through the motions of scooping and pouring.
Provide physical support to children as they self-serve.
- Hold cups or plates steady as children pour and scoop.
- For example, “I’ll hold your cup while you pour. Holding it keeps it steady so the milk won’t spill.”
Verbal Assists
Watch the following video to learn about using verbal assists to help children learn to serve themselves.
Modeling. Show children how to serve the food and describe what you are doing.
- When scooping, say:
- “Hold on to the handle like this. Put the scoop to the bottom of the dish and slowly bring it out. Watch me.”
- When pouring, say:
- “Watch me as I pour the milk. I am using both hands. Hold on to the handle, lift the pitcher in the air. Then place the rim of the pitcher on the rim of the cup and slowly tilt the pitcher to pour the milk in your cup.”
Give verbal prompts to teach self-serve skills by saying:
- “Hold the bowl by the sides. Use both hands.”
- “Hold your glass by the side.”
- “Hold plates by the edges. Use both hands.”
- “Hold serving scoops and spoons by the handle.”
- “Look at the person you are passing the bowl to or receiving the bowl from.” (This reduces spills and supports social skills.)
- “Set items down gently.”
Children need your support and they need practice.
- Let children know that it is okay if they spill. You can encourage them to try again in the future by saying, “You tried your best to get the milk in your cup. Let’s get a paper towel to clean up the milk, and then you can try again.”
Celebrate success in self-service
- Developing self-serving skills provides children with a sense of confidence that is important for success.
- Verbal encouragement such as saying, “You did it! You scooped the peaches out of the serving bowl and put them on your plate!” can reinforce their efforts to serve themselves.